What Growth Looks Like Stepping Into The Woman I've Been Avoiding Becoming

A few months ago, I wrote about Forty Intentions, the clarity of who I want to become. Then I wrote about Taking Your Life to the Next Level, the vision of what that growth could look like.

But intentions without action are just beautifully worded dreams.

So this is the bridge.

This is the month I stop playing small. This is the month I step into Main Character Energy.

Not in a loud, ego-driven way.

Not in a “watch me prove everyone wrong” way.

But in a grounded, steady, deeply-rooted way that says: I know who I am becoming.

Main Character Energy doesn’t mean being the loudest in the room. It means no longer narrating your life as if you’re a supporting character in someone else’s story. It means making decisions from ownership instead of fear. It means choosing yourself, even when your voice shakes.

And I’m saying this publicly because accountability changes everything.

WHERE I’VE BEEN PLAYING SMALL

In my business. In my confidence. In my voice. In my boundaries.

I have been over-giving and over-spending. I have avoided saying what I actually need. I have let fear whisper, “You’ve failed before. Why would this be different?”

Playing small looked like almost not sending the email about my book event because I didn’t want to inconvenience anyone.

It looked like lowering my expectations before anyone else could.It looked like saying “it’s fine” when it wasn’t.

And if I’m being honest?

There is a part of me that is terrified I’m just not good enough to reach the goals I want.

Not disciplined enough.

Not smart enough.

Not strategic enough.

Not “business-minded” enough.

I want to become a psychologist. I have carried that vision for about eleven years, owning my own psychology practice, sitting across from women, and helping them untangle the stories that keep them stuck. I truly believe I would make a good psychologist.

But I’ve also had to accept something hard: right now, it isn’t in the cards.

It’s expensive.

It would require going back to school.

And at this stage of my life, I don’t believe I can carry that weight.

There was a quiet grief in letting that dream go. Not because I don’t believe in myself, but because sometimes growth also means accepting timing. Sometimes the woman you’re becoming looks different than the one you imagined ten years ago.

And that doesn’t mean you failed. It means you pivoted.

So instead of staying stuck in what I can’t do, I am choosing to build what I can.

I want to help women.

I don’t want to feel helpless.

I don’t want to rely on anyone else for my sense of worth or security. I want to stand on my own two feet and be proud of the woman I was, the woman I am, and the woman I am becoming.

March is the month I begin proving to myself that I can.

A Question for You

Where have you been waiting for permission?

And what would change if you gave it to yourself?

MY BIG, PUBLIC GOALS FOR 2026

I don’t believe in keeping my goals a secret. There are days when I need support. There are days when I need someone to remind me of what I said I wanted. Sharing my dreams allows me to stay honest about how it’s going, especially when it’s messy.

So here they are:

• $50,000 in business revenue

• 150 copies sold of my new book, Somewhere Between Us, launching in April

• $5,000 saved

  
  

I have never done any of these before.

That scares me. But I am done letting “I’ve never done it” be the reason I don’t try. And these numbers? They aren’t about ego. They aren’t about proving anything to anyone else. They’re about proving to the part of me that doubts that I can build something sustainable. That I can.

Next level doesn’t mean burning out. It means:

Taking care of myself while building something meaningful.Being present with my kids while also building a successful business.Acting like the CEO of my life instead of waiting for permission.

WHAT GROWTH LOOKS LIKE IN MARCH

Not glamorous.

Not viral.

Not dramatic.

Consistent.

And consistency requires non-negotiables.

Not punishments.

Not rigid rules.

Anchors.

My Daily Non-Negotiables

• Journal before consuming content

• Write before scrolling

• Read daily

• Drink enough water

• Cook at home

• Sleep 7+ hours

• Walk every day

  
  

I’m also adding:

10 minutes of CEO thinking time daily.This is an intentional space where I step out of doing the business and step into leading it. Strategic thinking. High-level decisions. Asking better questions.

A 5-minute boundary reflection:Where did I shrink today?Where did I speak honestly?

My Weekly Non-Negotiables

• 3–5 workouts at home

• A CEO check-in with my business

• One bold ask (collaboration, outreach, visibility step)

• One money date (review spending, savings, revenue)

• One boundary practiced out loud

  
  

I am also recommitting to:

• Seeing my psychologist monthly

• Actually using the Divine Wealth Identity Portal that I’m paying for

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Growth requires participation.

My Monthly Systems (Because Hope Is Not a Strategy)

This is new for me. Instead of winging it, I’m building systems.

Content System:Repurposing content intentionally across my platforms instead of reinventing the wheel.

Book Launch System:Consistent storytelling. Momentum building toward April 1.

Financial Systems:Automatic savings. Spending awareness. Weekly reviews.

Personal Growth Systems:Reflection after therapy. Intentional use of the tools I invest in.

This is what boss woman energy actually looks like.

Not vibes.

Structure.

THE MARCH MAIN CHARACTER RESET

(Join me in my Facebook Group, Pages Of Her)

If you’ve been playing small, this is your invitation.

Not to overhaul your life. Just to stop avoiding it.

We’re doing this in four simple weeks:

Week 1: AuditWrite down where you are shrinking. Choose ONE habit to stop.

Week 2: SpeakHave one honest conversation. Say one boundary clearly.

Week 3: BuildTake one bold action toward the goal that scares you. Track your numbers instead of avoiding them.

Week 4: EmbodyDo one thing your future self would do. Show up visibly in one way that feels uncomfortable but aligned.

That’s it.

No perfection.

No performance.

Just participation.

THE STORY THAT I’M REWRITING

We all carry stories we are trying to outgrow. Versions of ourselves we wish we could silence. The ones that whisper when we try something new.

For me, that story says:

“You’re not good enough.”

So I am replacing it with:

“I am allowed to grow into the woman I admire.”

Growth is uncomfortable.

Setting boundaries is uncomfortable.

Tracking money is uncomfortable.

Declaring goals publicly is uncomfortable.

But staying small is more uncomfortable.

On April 1, I’m hosting my pre-launch book event. It’s more than a book night. It’s a declaration.

If you want to see what stepping into something new looks like in real time, I would love to see you there.

March isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about becoming honest about who you already are.

This time, we’re not just dreaming. We’re building.

Slowly. Intentionally. Imperfectly.

And if you see me wobble, remind me what I said here.

Because the woman I’ve been avoiding becoming?

She isn’t out of reach.

She’s just waiting for me to stop shrinking.